Inventing Second Chances - A short story

I watch you.  I see you and you have no idea of my presence.  It’s impossible for you to see or hear me, but I see you with her.  Walking hand in hand, stopping to hold her close and bury your face in her smooth, glossy hair.

“We’re overdue another incarnation,” I pronounce at book club one evening.  Four startled pairs of eyes stare suspiciously back, warily, silently wondering what’s coming next.

 “OK, I’ll bite.  What are you on about now?”  Pam asks, swallowing a large glug of dry white, accompanied by a chorus of chirps from the others.

Placing my beer mug-sized wine glass down carefully, I breathe in deeply and surveying the curious expressions turned towards me, explain.

 “Remember the Get-a- Long Gang?  Newly divorced, young kids, no money and too old to hit the singles scene?” 

Dry chuckles and groans as Pam, Karen, Chris and Laura nod, recalling the name we had for ourselves.  Two Fridays a month we got the night off from full time single parenting and relishing the freedom, we glammed up and hit the town, eager to behave like the single young-ish people we thought we were.

Regretfully, our self images didn’t measure up to our birth certificates nor to the staggering number of wax-mannequin perfect, stiletto wearing clones barely covered by strips of stretch glitter lycra and spray on jeans.  Well, maybe calling them ‘jeans’ is stretching the word a little.  All they had in common with the sensible bootleg pants we wore was the varied shades of blue denim.  There was no disguising the word which described us -mumsy.  So after dancing with each other, buying our own drinks and leaving the pubs like middle aged Cinderella’s at midnight, taunts of “come back sugar mummies” ringing in our ears, we eventually gave up and grew up.

The Get-a-Long Gang turned into a bookclub.  Not a terribly well organised one at that – irregularly held meetings spent drinking and jaws clacking until they ached.  Actually, the book box didn’t even make the last meeting, having been left behind in Chris’s driveway.  Thankfully, it was only the books, not her wine.

“Look at us,” I say.  “We’re a ghost generation.  Our primary function is over; we’ve been discarded by offspring and husbands.  We need to reinvent ourselves and discover a new purpose, solely for ourselves.”

Standing in the doorway, I gaze inside the room, my eyes lingering on the neatly made bed.  My heart squeezes painfully and my eyes fill; the heavy emptiness too much to bear.

Laura, ever the cautious one, clears her throat, nudging her glasses further up her nose.  “We hear you, Caro.  But perhaps it’s time to acknowledge that we are not in our 20’s or 30’s anymore and just gracefully accept the stage we are actually in?”  Softly spoken Laura rarely says anything controversial or disagreeable socially.   Very different from the passionate and vocal eco tiger Laura becomes when organising protest marches and petitions for the Environmental Agency she runs.

The clamorous outcry that follows her statement has us gasping for breath and reaching for the corkscrew.  There’s nothing like indignation to dry throats and empty glasses.

“Nonsense,” roars Karen.  “Graham says younger women can’t hold a candle to us.  He’s never met anyone as on- form and enthusiastic in the sack as I am.  Not bad considering he’s 18 years younger than me.”

Mouths open, Laura, Chris, Pam and I catch each other’s eye, but leave the thoughts unsaid.  Karen, an artist, has never bothered with marriage or children.  Besotted with her Great Dane she spends her life travelling in places where running water and electricity are unheard of.  Jungle trekking in Vietnam – that’s her.  Sleeping rough on a tiny island off the West African coast – her too.  And those are the places she meets the endless string of boys barely old enough to shave that she tucks under her wing and dotes on.  When they move on, she books another plane ticket and heads out, hunting down the next one.

“Well,” Pam says, “we’ve got an unmarked canvas ahead of us.  What we had has gone.  We’re aging faster than we could have believed and my future is bursting with wrinkles, aching joints, hormones and my cats. So I’m up for anything to change that.”

“We’re completely ignored by songwriters and poets,” Chris remarks.  “And have they ever made a movie about menopausal women squelching out of bed in the middle of the night or sitting in meetings radiating heat like a boiling kettle?”

I bite my lip, cursing aloud as the nut on the pool weir refuses to budge. Hammering at it with the pliers, I feel the tears mounting behind my lashes.  This is your job; my hands aren’t strong enough to do this.  The soupy olive water reflects my distress.  I feel so alone.  When did I become so helpless?

The next day, Karen phones.  “I think you’re onto something,” she shrieks.  She’s always so loud and active; it’s exhausting to spend much time with her.

“We have to decide how to fill this canvas.  I think book club has run its course, and it’s time for us to grasp the nettle and go for it.  Time’s a’ticking, if we don’t do it now, then when?”

She’s right, of course, but what is the what?

“I’m emailing everyone today and setting up a meeting at the wine bar for Thursday week.  We all have to come armed with an idea for our personal growth project,” she continues.

It’s easier to agree than to argue so I do, leaving the anxiety for later.  What do I want to achieve?  What do I dream about?  Who am I anyway?  I fear it’s too late to discover myself. The glossies feature ‘inspirational’ stories about on-top-of-their-game women who seemingly without effort reinvent their lives and turn hobbies into successful businesses.   But I feel intimidated, not inspired by these women.  When cooking, gardening and DIY are never ending chores, how can they become a hobby?  Besides, my wonky cakes and tasty casseroles look more at home in the dog’s bowl than the food stylist’s photograph.  Culinary skills are not my path to fame and fortune, and do I really want to melt the rest of my life away cooking to order?

The tizzy spin Karen’s pronouncement puts my head into shows itself later.  A screaming match with my editor over photographs she hadn’t asked for and now insists on getting, followed by not one but three proofreading meltdowns - all for the same client - sends me home with my tail between my legs and eyes spilling over.  I can’t afford to lose this job, but something seems to be happening to my brain.  How could I read something so many times and miss the glaringly obvious typos? 

 “I’m ready to go into the witness protection programme and start a new life!” I sobbed over the phone to Pam.  “It’s all too much, everything is going wrong and I want a new life.  Someone else’s. Anyone else’s”

“Wait for me,” she said, “I’ll join you – I came within inches of slicing my boss’s head off today and it’s impossible to decide if it was due to having a bog standard idiot in charge or a freaking hormonal super storm.”  This is why we are friends – misery shared is misery halved.   Pam thrives in the pressure cooker world of a small advertising agency, where her calm, easy going nature achieves the impossible and keeps everyone on track.  But even she has her limits.

Thursday arrived and with confused head and heart I turned my car towards the wine bar.  Chris, Karen and Laura sit at a table near the door, heads flung back, roaring with laughter, wine level in their glasses already dangerously low.  Well, we may not solve many problems tonight but as usual, when we get together a good time is guaranteed.   

“Just wait til you hear this,” Karen hiccups, her face flushed pomegranate with glee.  “Chris discovered Cam’s stash of dope and has been stealing and smoking it!”

Speechless, I sit down heavily on the trendy and oh-so-uncomfortable seat, blindly reaching for the bottle as I gawk at Chris.

“Well why not?” she asks defensively.  “I wanted to see what all the fuss was about and last week when that deal fell through at work and Jonathan told me that Candi was pregnant the timing seemed perfect.”

“Your ex husband has got Barbie up the spout?  He’s spent the past 15 years dodging maintenance payments and now he starts another family with a teenager?”   For a minute, Chris’s mid life narcotic adventure took a step backwards as the news penetrated my muddled menopausal brain.

Exuding cigarette smoke and in her usual breathless way, Pam dropped into the seat next to me.  “What am I missing?” she asks “If your jaws drop any lower I could have parked my car inside one and saved the past 20 minutes trying to find something legal outside.”

Chris swiftly tells the story her ex-idiot had revealed on the phone.  “You know,” Laura comments, “it’s boastful and lame of him to call just to tell you that”

“Never mind” I interrupt,” let’s get back to the drug story.  What were you thinking, stealing your son’s supply?  You’re 48, not 18.  Is this some sort of midlife rebellion?  And who are you rebelling against?”

Lifting her chin, staring defiantly at us, Chris began to explain.  The words poured like a waterfall, flowing over her lips.  “I’m rebelling against me.  Smoking makes me feel lighter, unburdened, as if all the ropes tying me down have been released and I’m free to float at will.  I didn’t get the chance to do this at 18 – when you girls were clubbing all night, I was awake with a toddler and a new baby.”

We sit briefly in sympathy filled silence.  Then, like a whirlwind, Karen launches herself off her chair and hurtled across the room.  “Richard” she yells, leaping up at a startled man just entering the wine bar, wrapping her long and unfairly gorgeous legs around his waist.

“Sit, Karen,” Laura, veteran dog owner, commands.  “Put him down.”   Her firm voice brooks no argument and Karen reluctantly peels herself off the startled man and walks back to the table, pouting.

“I haven’t seen him in ages,” she whines.  “I’ve missed him and just wanted to say hello.”  Shaken and relieved at his escape, Richard clutches the bar, frantically signalling the barman for a drink. Richard, it turned out, was a client she’d seduced then dumped when she went gorilla trekking in Uganda.

“Right, who’s up first with their ideas for reinventing themselves?” Pam asks, refilling the glasses.

Surprisingly, it’s Laura who puts her drink down first.   “I’ll start,” she says “What I really want to do is to travel.  That costs money which I don’t have.  But I’ve always had a knack for foreign languages - I pick up the basics very quickly.  There’s an elderly Portuguese lady in my complex who’s agreed to teach me Portuguese two evenings a week.  She doesn’t want paying, just some company and I’ll help her with her shopping on Saturdays.  There are plenty of environmental jobs in Africa for someone bilingual.  It’s a long road ahead, but I’ve got time on my hands.”

We clap enthusiastically, and Karen whoops loudly.  “That’s great,” declares Pam.  “I’ve come up with something too.  I loathe cooking for one, so I’ve advertised ready-made home cooked meals on our office notice board.  I had no idea I worked with so many single people – the response has been great so this weekend is my big cook-up, first deliveries on Monday.  You can’t imagine how my heart sings with joy at being able to cook up a storm again.”

Wow, these girls rock, I think, still clueless as to where I’m heading.   “Me next.”  Karen announces.  “I’m helping out at the Hunky Munky backpackers in town.  They need someone to run reception and I can set up my computer in the office and work there when it’s quiet.  The pay isn’t great but the vibe is magic and with all the travelling I’ve done, I can offer experienced advice to the backpackers.”

“And,” mutters Laura sotto voce, “a supply of fresh meat on tap!” causing much snorting of wine up our noses.

Chris jumps in before Karen can summon up a response.  “I’m joining the hiking and birding clubs.  I need to be more active and this way I spend more time outdoors, get fitter, learn something and meet a new group of people.  I’ve bought a new camera and the guy at the shop has offered me some lessons, so I can take some cracking pics on the weekend jaunts.”

A babble of approving voices and smiles greet this news, and four faces turn expectantly to me.  What am I to say? “Err, well, I’ve been giving intense thought to so many ideas, it’s very difficult to select one.”

“Nonsense,” Pam glares fiercely.  “Cough up, this was your idea in the first place.”

My head swivels on my neck as I desperately stare around the wine bar, seeking inspiration.  Mirrors and brushed chrome coldly rebuff my mental plea for help.  As my eyes swing back to the group, they sweep over the chalkboard menu.  ‘Organic ingredients fresh from the earth!’  trumpets the heading.  Earth, I think.  I need grounding.

“Soil” I announce.  “I need to get my hands dirty and earth myself.  I’m turning my little patch of grass into a herb and veggie garden, there’s a nursery down the road that’ll help me get started.  I’ve avoided gardening because it’s so demanding, but it’ll keep me physically busy and occupy my mind.  And you lot can look forward to feasting off the sweat of my brow next spring!” 

As we raise our glasses in celebration, Chris asks “so will we still get together now we’ve fired book club?”

“Of course,” I reply. “We have a new club – Single, Menopausal, Empty-Nesters Union – SMENU.  Getting together to share food, wine, laughs, support and advice – just like book club but no pretending that we actually read anything.”

Clinking glasses, our beaming faces shine happily around our circle.  We’ve stared obsolescence and loneliness down, reached inside ourselves and rediscovered our dreams.  Sure, our children have fledged and moved on, but we are commencing our own voyage of discovery.

I watch you.  I see you and you have no idea of my presence.  It’s impossible for you to feel me tenderly stroke your hair, but I do so one last time.  I glow with pride as my mind watches you thriving at university, striding confidently towards your future.  I let you grow up and leave, my son, and turn to face my own future.   I see the horizon ahead and reach out eagerly.  Hungry for the dreams within me, and celebrating the freedom I have to nurture them.

Re-Purposing a Hairdryer

Mmm, mmm, mmmm.  Every cell in my body hums as the icy G n T, with a generous slice of lime, slides past my tonsils.  Yes, can you believe that I still have those?  Eyesight, hearing, flat stomach all left the building years ago, but my tonsils, she is still here!

Sure, I'm drinking alone just after midday but my aching body deserves this treat after an energetic morning fertilizing and watering the rather sad winter garden, spraying the patio couches with some chemical protectant and planting tomatoes and garlic in the kitchen garden.

A new house means beginning the veggie garden all over again, which is OK but I have to fit it in between several out of town trips.  Experience has taught that gardens need regular love and care, not the slap dash all-or-nothing approach that is my wont.

A chemical protectant has no place in a Lightly Green blog, and is a desperate last resort.  Note to empty nesters out there - once the sprogs leave home don't give in to the interior design mags and splurge on a wicker patio suite with puffy winter white cushions.  They aren't under siege from toddler chocolate fingers or teenage sneakers, but as some distinct, clear-as-the-mud-they-were-formed-from paw prints reveal, Speckle and Egg love the new furniture as well.

Which reminds me of a funny story involving Senior Son and a Christmas cake. When he was 4, I'd baked a Christmas cake and flood-iced it with a charming picture of Father Christmas about to descend a chimney.  Flood icing, for the uninitiated, involves tracing the picture outlines in hard icing, then colouring some soft Royal icing which is squeezed into the outlines until the meniscus holds it within the boundaries and the picture is filled.   Leaving the handiwork to harden, I attended nappy duty on Junior son and returned to find a neat, finger poked hole in FC's boot.  "Who did that?" I demanded.  "Tai Chi" answered Senior Son.  Tai Chi, our long haired black-as- night cat, the unfriendliest feline on Planet Earth who'd pretty much left home when Son 1 arrived and made it her task to ensure she never, ever, was in the same room as the boys.  "Hmm, it doesn't look like her paw print, let me get Tai Chi and see if her paw fits".  A brilliant tactic, if I say so myself, as it elicted an immediate confession that no, it wasn't the cat, it was actually him!

Getting back to Sunday morning, with the jolly couch spraying task done, I turned my sights to planting out some garlic cloves and tomato seeds in the kitchen garden. Moving heaps of discarded Virginia creeper leaves from the garden bed was backbreaking work because of the blasted tonnes of white pebbles some halfwit landscaper had filled the bed with. Who deposits layers of pebbles, at a guess over 100kg's worth, beneath a Virginia creeper which rejoices at the approach of winter by shedding every leaf it can, opening up for the birds to move in and nibble at the berries?  All this would-be mulch sat sulkily on top of the pebbles, wasted and not doing what it should do - mulch the bed.

The rake and broom having no effect but thinking longingly of the leaf blowers I sneer at created a light bulb moment - I DO have a hairdryer. Digging it out of the cupboard, setting up adapters and extension cables and reading the instructions to find the cold setting - eureka, it works!  Ok, not like the professional jobs but how thrilling to watch the leaves blowing up into the air and off the stones.  Success!

Someone was enjoying the leaves!

Following the instructions posted on www.gardenate.com, once the leaves were banished and the stones removed, 7 plump garlic cloves were placed pointy end up, covered in worm vermicast and rewarded with some water. Is there a reader who has mastered the trick of retrieving vermicast from their worm farm? I've tried spreading it out on newspapers in the sun, creating a pyramid so the worms wiggle down at the bottom as instructed - fail!  And it's so time consuming to rescue all the worms from the vermicast as I dig it out and then in.  The baby worms are especially stupid and don't realise that the sunlight and activity means they should shoo down as low as they can go. Darwin Awards are all very well, but I'm fond of my worms, they work hard and deserve saving. 

Another tip picked up from the garlic planting page at Gardenate is NOT to use garlic cloves bought in a supermarket, but try and source them from friends / community growers.  The garlic we buy in-store has been treated and may sprout, if lucky, but that is all.  If you want green swathes of pungent garlic, you need organic, heirloom or homegrown from a friend cloves.

Luckily, my cloves came from Louise Williamson, who proudly pressed some of her first garlic crop on us when Kate and I visited so the heritage of my garlic cloves is first rate.  Ditto the small yellow and mini red tomatoes sourced from Rowena at Fountains Farm.  The crop is sure to be wonderful and I can't wait.

Everything has to start somewhere

Whatever your job description, as a parent or an adult you are a tutor and influencer.  It’s accepted that we learn better from mistakes and things running amok than from success.  How we behave teaches more than words unsupported by deed, and nowhere is this demonstrated better than the state of the planet.  If governments can have State of the Nation addresses, then the planet deserves one too.   

I was blessed beyond my imagining to be selected to attend the first African Climate Reality Leadership course held in March at the Sandton Convention Centre.  Listening to veteran Climate Reality leaders such as Al Gore and Kumi Naidoo, Dania Gurira, Patrick Ngowi, Evans Wadongo and Ikal Angelei amongst many others was more than inspiring to me and hundreds of other delegates – we felt truly at home amongst likeminded souls.

Whether a professional environmentalist or an ordinary person whose interest and passion for the wellbeing of our earth beats strongly through your veins, nearly 900 people were held spellbound for three days. Everyone took so much away with them, inspired and motivated to continue on our path.

In 2006, An Inconvenient Truth woke a slumbering public up to climate change and caused a flurry amongst politicians and scientists, many eagerly disputing the film, the science and the man.  In 2014, this group of dissenters, referred to as climate denialists, is melting faster than the arctic ice pack as scientific evidence continues to land on the climate change side of the scale.  And weather events throwing up chaos, change and confusion across the planet are now the norm.

So what, then, is the State of the Planet in 2014?  

-       -   2013 was the 37^th consecutive year with the average global temperature above the 20^th century average.

-       -   February 2014 was the 348^th consecutive month with a global temperature above the 20^th century average

-     -   Higher temperatures and warmer oceans evaporate more water vapour into the sky. Global humidity has increased by 4% in 30 years.   Every 1⁰C increase in air temperature increases the capacity of the atmosphere over the ocean to hold water vapour by 7%.  This water vapour has nowhere to go but down, hence heavier downpours of rain.

I’m not going to attempt to share three twelve hour day’s worth of lectures and discussions in depth with you here, that’s an impossible task.  All I can do is to spark your interest to investigate and research this further yourself.

Climate change is a fact, a reality we are living.  Respected scientific research from across the globe continues to heap more proof onto the climate change pile – the facts are indisputable. 

The questions and the arguments now are about the way forward – how to secure food and water for mankind into the future.  Renewable energy, resource conservation and safeguarding what we need to survive as a species. 

Wars have always been fought over resources of some kind – land, slaves, minerals, oil, and access to water as a transport medium.

Al Gore maintains that the war in Darfur will be seen as the world’s first war over food.  Be assured that it will not be the last ‘food’ war, and since we can’t drink oil or eat coal, a time will come when fighting over mineral resources will take a backseat to waging war over drinking water and arable land.

One of the most exciting thoughts I took away from the conference was the conviction that the solutions will be found by Generation X & Y.  Not merely because their predecessors have left them no alternative but to eventually begin hugging bunnies and clean up our mess, but because the future expansion of knowledge, research and development lies in renewable energy, food and water security.

Man has discovered that the earth isn’t flat, landed on the moon, created babies in test tubes and cloned sheep.  So what’s left for this and future generations to change and discover?  

Listening to the bright and enthusiastic ideas and thoughts of the students from schools such as St Stithians and Beaulieu who attended the conference and the passionate speech from the young Egyptian delegate describing the climate change computer game he is busy inventing, it is obvious that these young people don’t see green living and thinking as some sort of tedious punishment for their parents ‘sins’ – they are embracing the opportunity to invent, discover and change society and the world around them.

A Helping Hand Needed, Please

Meet Amon Mwamba and his wife Jeanette. Amon retired after 40 years service at Halls. Moved by the abuse and suffering of children in child-headed households in the Mataffin community in Nelspruit, he has used his pension to build a creche and an after school drop in centre for 150 orphans. The older children are given a hot meal after school and helped with their homework.

A classroom has been built but is incomplete - he owes the carpenter R2 200.00 which he doesn't have. He also needs to raise the funds to finish the ceiling and electrics as well as to glaze the windows. A donor has offered floor tiles, but Amon needs to buy the tile glue and grout, and lay them.

The Dept of Social Development is unable to allocate any funds to his project, but have suggested that he fundraise within the community. Unfortunately, the community is a very poor one so fundraising is slow. I realise that this is one of thousands of such needy projects around the country, but this is one that is close to my heart. Amon and Jeanette are making a difference, assisted by volunteers from the community. They saw a need and are doing their best on their own initiative and out of their own pockets to solve it.

Social Welfare delivers some bread weekly, the centre grows it's own vegetables and the staff dip into their own pockets to supplement whatever food donations they get, ensuring the orphans get at least 1 hot meal a day.

I'd love to share this special place with you, so if you have an hour to spare we can set up a visit so that you can see for yourself the happy little faces and I'm sure you'll also be touched by the special safe place Amon and Jeanette and their ladies have created for the kids, from so little. It's a humbling experience to spend time there.

Woodhouse Community Care Base, PO Box 6 Mataffin 1205, registration number 089-534-NPO. Contact numbers Amon 72 619 3511 / 079 082 5420.

Please share this, and if you can help in any way it would be so appreciated. Thank you

The Litter of the Law

Our first visit to Kenya - how exciting.  A whirlwind of activity based around Nairobi and Mombasa, it's the forerunner of many future visits and our first impressions are excellent.

Our biggest Wow moments, though, have been reserved for the astonishing cleanliness of the streets in Nairobi.  I'll qualify this by saying we travelled from Jomo Kenyatta International Airport to the uptown hotel / government district, then spent hours walking through the adjacent streets, strolled through Uhuru park, walked downtown to the famous Thorn Tree Cafe (at the Stanley Hotel, playground of Earnest Hemingway and the first 'post office' in Kenya), and up a rather long hill to the National Museum and through the streets around the University.  

By no means was this an exhaustive (although it was an exhausting hike!) inspection of the city, and we were told by many about the filthy downtown areas we didn't see on our travels.  So bear in mind there is a substantial portion of the city which, by all reports, better resembles the African inner city slums we were expecting.  We just didn't see it.

Lunchtime street in Nairobi

What we did see were spotless public parks, well utilised at lunchtime and after work for picnics, strolls, get togethers and just plain relaxation.

Without a single piece of litter, anywhere.

Plentiful dustbins on the city pavements, many of which are recyclers, and properly used as such.

Street recycler, Nairobi

Just after 18h30, rush hour traffic.  

Close up of the pavement RHS of rush hour traffic

Solar powered recycling bins at both international airports in Nairobi and Mombasa.

Clean, litter free streets.

We were so boggle-eyed over this I snapped away at bins, pavements and rush hour streets, having decided that no one at home would believe us and only 
photographic proof would do.

Eventually, it all got too much for me and I couldn't hold back any longer, interrogating our driver who'd stopped the taxi and watched in amazement as I photographed one of the solar recycling bins at JKIA.

Years ago, Nairobi was a littered, rubbish strewn slum.  Businesses in town closed and moved out.  Tourists stayed away. 
Then city residents, business owners and landlords got together with government and took action.

Solar powered recycling bin at JKIA

Now, if you drop a piece of litter in public you risk instant arrest from one of the many PLAIN CLOTHED policemen and women who patrol unnoticed.  After a night or two in jail you'll appear in front of a judge and if you can't pay the substantial fine, you spend a day clearing litter, weeding and otherwise cleaning up public spaces.  Zero tolerance and no shrieking about human rights, either.  

A fun recyling bin at Mombasa's Moi International Airport

No doubt public outrage erupted when this heavy handed approach was first adopted, but several years later, peoples' waste disposal habits have changed to suit the law.  The streets and parks are clean, vibrant and utilised spaces.  No one complains and everyone enjoys the pleasant and healthy environment they work, shop and live in.

It is now embarrassing for me to live in Africa's "powerhouse" country.  So developed and rich that millions from across the continent leave their homelands and suffer enormously to be here in South Africa.  We demand first world facilities and services and insist we are right up there with Europe and America.  Except, of course, in terms of their strict recycling habits and laws. But gosh, we live in Africa and can't be expected to be on their sophisticated level in that regard.

Helloooo - if Kenya can, so can we.  Look at the photographs and blush.  Proof that business, residents and government can insist on doing the right thing for all.  Make the hard decisions, stick to your guns  and ignore the complaints.  Force people to obey the law, change their ways and live in a cleaner environment.

This isn't just about a group of bunny huggers being a pain in the you-know-what.  It offers enormous benefits to YOU in terms of health, cleanliness, and a pleasant environment in which people school, live, conduct business and visit.

So how can we bring this lesson from Kenya home to our town?

Even the park benches inspire...

Jumbo Maroela Mambo

This blog doesn’t have a story, in fact, nothing  happened so if you've tuned in for an adventurous tale, it may be time to move on to a more action-filled blog.

No, this is a rumination about what might have happened, and the extraordinary account that might have been if expectations had come to fruition.

I left the check in administration to Him Outdoors when we arrived at the Kruger National Park’s Malelane gate yesterday, thereby missing a kernel of information passed on by the friendly lady at reception.  He charily chose his moment to share it, flicking the top off a chilled cider.

“The camp fence is down,” he tentatively offered, “the elephants are coming in at night.”

I’m not sure what reception he imagined he’d get to that, but “kewl!” was probably not it!  A large tonnage of ellie family perambulating around our 5 sleeper (made in China) tent which barely fits the two of us while we slept – this is going to be a campfire tale that’ll keep audiences entranced for years to come.

Beautiful Maroela tree

Oh the decisions – do I keep the camera at hand to record the moment?  Would the flash enrage a bull inebriated on ripened maroela fruit?

Considerable time was spent carefully selected the perfect tent site  -  flat, under a tree, close to the power point, against the fence and with my contribution – NEXT to one of the two flattened  areas of fence, but NOT on the path between the broken fence and the maroela trees.  I want an adventure but I’m not stupid enough to place our bodies midway between the newly created unofficial entrance for an elephant mob eager to get to the cocktail tree and the bar itself.

Let the record reflect that the camp was empty but for us and another couple – so choosing a site next to a hotspot with at least 15 safer alternatives available - was a considered choice.

Issuing strict instructions that I was to be woken at the slightest noise, we turned in.  This was an important detail -  on a once in a lifetime Serengeti trip I slept oblivious through giraffe browsing next to our tent, hyena’s and jackal and heaven knows what else stomping about the camp, making a racket that woke up all except me.  The next morning I felt as though I was left out of a game drive, the way the others were comparing notes on what they’d heard.

A regular job, apparently - fence repair

Sadly, (and I did warn you) the jumbo’s elected not to drink at Malelane pub last night.  Perhaps the heavy rain put them off or our eager vibes transmitted themselves to the herd.  The section ranger and his crew arriving to repair the fence this morning were quite startled to be greeted by a pyjama clad woman requesting the repairs be delayed a day or two, leaving the fence down to welcome the night visitors.

The yummy ellie treats

He said, though, that this happens every year.  Despite a park filled with maroela trees the elephants trash the fence to get at the 5 or 6 trees inside the camp.  Sounds remarkably like forbidden fruit and defiant children to me.

The Hidden Food Gardens of White River

Tackling a new route on my Sunday morning stomp around the village unveiled a startling and heartwarming food market operating under the radar here.

The wetland filled bird sanctuary has long been home to some local vegetable farming. I've never seen much happen there, but what was revealed behind the untidy dense grass of the open land just outside of the shopping precinct was astonishing.

Our town is home to many unkempt public spaces and 'parks' which council completely ignores and doesn't maintain at all.  Scruffy overgrown grasses, shrubs, weeds and alien plants grow ever higher and present a poor town image to say the least.  

Hurtling past in a car it's impossible to see what lies beyond the bedraggled edges which serve as catcher's mitts for litter tossed by pedestrians and from passing vehicles and give no indication of the brilliant gardening and commerce concealed within.

Would you think a thriving enterprise lies beyond the curb?

To be honest, if I hadn't noticed the passerby call out as I walked by I wouldn't have seen the gogo hidden in the green. Even then, it meant nothing to me.  But returning few minutes later, I noticed the passerby taking a bag of vegetables from gogo and handing over some money.  The penny dropped.

That straggly, overgrown green belt was more than a patch of council neglect - an enterprising old lady had painstakingly cleared some ground and planted mealies, pumpkins and sweet potatoes, which she sells to passers by.  Simply brilliant.

Secret Food Garden

 

I went back that afternoon to photograph this little gem and speak to gogo, eager to find out her story.  Who is she?  How many people does she support? When did she start this venture?  Sadly, though, she'd gone, her day's business finished.

But while I drove around, comparing and photographing patches of open land, I discovered two more hidden food gardens, and couldn't help beaming in delight.  

Deprived and neglected by a previous government, gogo has been failed again by the current one.  Social grants unable to fill the yawning chasm of survival costs, and the possibility that she is raising aids-orphaned grandchildren, gogo has squared her shoulders, picked up her hoe and just got on with looking after her own with her food garden.

Don't pity her - instead feel awe and inspiration at her strength.  Not for her the pathetic sitting back, hand outstretched, waiting for someone else to fill her cup.  And her hard work provides residents with fresh, organic, seasonal and local food in a way that supermarket chains can't.  

It was interesting to note how other residents were dealing with the messy open space across the road.  Indian shot (Canna indica) may look pretty, but is an invasive Category 1 alien from the Caribbean, acknowledged to be a problem in Mpumalanga.  Good choice!

Yes, it looks neat and orderly and rightly the homeowners have taken ownership of the council neglect and are making an effort.  But invasive aliens?  Why not plant a pavement food garden, signposted for people to help themselves, like a Parkmore resident has done?  She got national press coverage for her efforts and has proved it is sustainable.

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  The residents living across from this open land have planted category 1 aliens to 'beautify' the area

  Viva Gogo!